If you seem to try and solve your conflict by arguing you may be trying to be right as a way of solving the dispute or differences. When we become focused on a right and a wrong, trying to prove something or make the other person’s opinion or desires wrong can have a detrimental impact on our relationship and the self-esteem of both parties.

In this video, I explore what leads us to try and be right and the different ways this affects a relationship. The video also explains why this dynamic often escalates as the relationship progresses.

Letting go of being right is not easy but if you want to have a happy and intimate relationship then learning to do that is an essential skill.

If arguing has become a recurring pattern in your relationship, couples counselling in Vancouver can help you slow the cycle, understand what each partner is trying to protect, and work toward greater repair, clarity, and connection.