Delyse Ledgard RCC

She/Her

  • North Delta Location
  • Online & In-Person
  • Individual and Couples
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  • Trauma
  • Family of Origin
  • Attachment struggles
  • Relationships
  • Couples Counselling
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Dissociative Disorders
  • BPD
  • Self Esteem
  • Clinical Supervision

Couples Focus

Experienced with

  • Heterosexual.
  • LGBTQ2S
  • Open/non-monogamous/polyamourous
  • Blended Families
  • Cross Cultural

Common issues Partners have struggled with:

  • Constant arguing and bickering.
  • Sensitivity to emotional expression of their partner.
  • Infidelity.
  • Withdrawal and lack of participation.
  • Defensive responses.
  • Lack of respect for their partners experience.
  • Feeling responsible for their partner or dependent on their partner for their well being.
  • Ambivalent about being in the relationship or out of the relationship.
  • Criticism and complaining.
  • Lack of affection and intimacy.
  • Difficulty with differences and limitations.
  • Boundaries – loosing sense of self or hiding behind a protective wall.
  • Difficulties with expressing desires to their partner.
  • Distance, lack of affection, feeling disconnected.
  • Not making time for each other.
  • Torn between in-laws and partner.

Gestalt Certification.
Certified Somatic Transformation Practitioner
Level 1 Internal Family Systems
Clinical Supervision Level 1&2 Justice Institute.

Couples Training

Certified Relational Life Practitioner.
Developmental Couple Counselling level 1 and 2.

Tuesday 11am – 6 pm
Wednesday 12 noon – 8pm
Saturday 11am – 4 pm.

About Me

I am a cisgender, queer-identified woman. I am a first-generation uninvited settler to these lands from the UK 30 years ago. My ancestry is European/UK.

Working with me, you will find someone dedicated to connecting with you and supporting you towards a freer, more vibrant, and authentic you! People find my presence to feel safe and grounded, attentive and responsive. I work to help you create the space within you and around you so that you have the time to integrate your experience. I am interactive and can challenge you, as well as listen deeply. I look forward to discovering every new person who walks through my door and working together to heal the discouraged, disillusioned, and betrayed parts you bring.

Therapeutic Approach

Our past shapes us whether we realize it or not.

I know this very well. The approach to life that I learned in my childhood was to rely on myself.  This ‘go it alone’ perspective motivated me to move countries, start my practice and learn how to do things myself.  However, deep-seated self-doubt and longing for connection and community were underneath this protection.

Through my personal work of transforming the perfectionist-driven, shame-based parts of me, I found more ease with vulnerability and connecting with my authentic self.  I want to offer that possibility to you. Whatever your struggles are there is a way through.

Therapy isn’t about “fixing” you. It’s about empowering you to live life on your terms. We’ll work together to build your resilience and capacity to face life’s challenges with strength and confidence.

Together, we find what matters to you: your energy for life and connection to your true self. We will collaborate on the focus of the work. I see my job as creating a place where you can explore your thoughts, emotions, and behaviour. Experience has shown me that techniques are tools within an ongoing process where human connection and understanding are the conditions for change.

We’ll focus on slowing down, reflecting, and understanding your experiences. Doing so gives you the tools to let go of the past and embrace the future.  At the heart of my work lies the belief that true transformation begins with awareness. By delving into the present moment, we unlock the power of your past and present experiences. Neuroscience-backed techniques help you integrate new insights, leading to lasting change.

Relationships are central to all our lives, and so an important focus is how we relate to others. These areas will come up at different times depending on what you want to focus on.

Working With Partners

I have studied several approaches, and the one that fits me the most is Relational Life Therapy (RLT) by Terry Real. Changing dynamics in relationships takes determination and willingness to look inward. RLT helps couples to take an honest look at their behaviour with support and clarity. I have been doing in-depth study and training in this approach for the past ten years. I am walking the same journey as you. I came from a family without a healthy role model of loving, engaged and intimate relationships. I have had to address my behaviour of over-functioning, love-addicted and defensive style of interacting to get what I need. I know how hard it is to face what my part was and not blame the other person. I will work with you in a direct and empathic way with each partner to help you achieve your goals and look inwards.

What to expect.

The first few sessions will assess what is going on between you now.  With an understanding that the past has brought you to this point, we will focus on what needs to change now.  To do this, we address a number of examples in detail of when you are both at your worst or things go off the rails to get a picture of how things play out between you.  Sometimes, I am focused on working more with one person, in particular, to help change their behaviour or understand their struggle.

Couples ready to do this work find that change begins after a few sessions. Then, we go deeper into working on a new relationship, working through the developmental issues from their families and past relationships, and practicing new skills.

Another aspect of RLT  is the acknowledgement of discriminatory systems such as patriarchy and racism that affect relationships between partners that have taught us who is better than, more entitled and the preferred ways of doing things that represent the dominant culture.  As a result, men are often at a loss to know how to be intimate and relational, and women are often at a loss to know how to be assertive. Relationships today are still affected deeply by the imbalance of power that runs through our society on many levels.

We will address family of origin work and the relational wounds that affect gender roles and conditioning that has been passed on.

We will also focus on developing the skills needed to develop a loving and intimate relationship. When working on changing behaviour, we often work on boundaries, self-esteem, negotiation, respectful feedback, and successfully repairing hurts and disappointments.

Change is hard, and our most intimate relationships provide a catalyst for us to become the best we can be. I am committed to helping you reach those goals and creating a loving, respectful, vibrant relationship where your relationship is a sanctuary from life’s stresses.