Tamsen Simon RCC

They/Them

  • Vancouver Location
  • Online & In-Person
  • Individual and Couples
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  • Trauma
  • Life transitions
  • Relational distress
  • Identity discovery
  • Polyamory
  • Chronic illness
  • Panic/anxiety
  • Sensorimotor Level 1
  • RLT Certified Couples Therapist (Relational Life Therapy)
  • Consensual Non-Monogamy L1: Clinical Skills and Interventions (Institute for Relational Intimacy)
  • Sex and Trauma (AASECT)
  • Unattended Grief: Interventions to Facilitate Healthy Grieving (PESI)
  • Gottman Method Couples Therapy L1 (Gottman Method)
  • Embodiment Basics Course (The Embodiment Institute)
  • Montreal Cognitive Assessment (MoCA) certified
  • Advanced Neuro Techniques (The Neurostudio)
Tuesday 2 – 7pm
Wednesday 9am – 3pm
Thursday 2 – 7 pm
Friday 9am – 12 noon

Who I work With

Anyone who is scared of losing the people or person they feel closest to, yet is struggling to stay connected with them. People come to see me when they are questioning their discernment in their relationships. Questions like, “Is this struggle because I’m being difficult or because they are?” and “Should I be able to handle this better than I am?” You may want to bring your partner(s) into therapy with you to work through tricky agreements and repair misunderstandings.

Sometimes it can be hard to have a conversation, and avoiding it can cause even more distress. Maybe you’re realising your family or friends aren’t as supportive as you wanted, and you’d like to figure out how close you want to be now. With me, you can practice those conversations before you need to set hard limits that feel like being the “bad guy” and perhaps learn what boundaries you’ve been missing all along.

How I Work

I use the first session to get as much information as I can from everyone in the room. You know your relationship best. Being in the room is making an effort, and I honour that. I want to know what makes it hard to be on the same team about whatever issue is present.

Everyone comes in with their own experiential histories, families and cultures of origin, and beliefs on how to be in relationship. I want to get everyone in the room as much of what they want as possible. And sometimes we do learn that it isn’t going to be gotten in this relationship. That doesn’t necessarily end the connection. I support maintaining good relations through whatever changes occur by working directly with each person.

About Me

As a white, able-bodied, non-binary person, I am constantly investigating my privileges and ways of being. I am a 5th-generation settler and a 1st-generation immigrant to so-called Canada. I am bisexual, polyamorous, and have been partnered for over 20 years. I have travelled extensively throughout my life and enjoy cultural differences.

As a couples therapist, I believe my work supports the broader cultural need for human connection and inclusion, especially across differences. I am a kink, non-monogamy, and trans enthusiast.