How to Reduce Reactivity in Your Relationships

Upcoming Dates.

 Wednesdays 6 pm - 8.30pm.

Session 1
May 1st - Understanding your reactivity and how to interrupt it. 

Session 2
May 8th - 5 losing Strategies and how we bring our past into relationships. 

Session 3
May 15th -  The connection between boundaries and self-esteem.

Session 4
May 22nd -  Effective repair and winning strategies.

Open to any partnership or individual

Workshop Location

470 Granville Street,  Vancouver.

In-person workshop!
Approximately 12 - 15  spaces.

Cost: All 4 sessions total $210 per person plus GST

Individual sessions each cost $65 per person plus GST.

Why Our Workshops are In-Person Only

We considered providing online groups.  After all, it is convenient, and many of you at first glance may think this would be easier.  However, after careful thought we decided to stick to our convictions and work with you in in-person groups.

We are of the mind that the extra effort of  attending in person and perhaps the vulnerability of face-to-face encounters will provide more therapeutic material and benefits. Here are some of them:

  • All aspects of being relational are experienced more fully.
  • Increases trust when we can experience all aspects of each other (visual, hear, sense someone's warmth, eye contact).
  • We can provide better feedback and direction in small groups.
  • It is harder to disconnect from each other and the experience.
  • We can have more fun and laughter together.

These workshop sessions will contain experiential exploration. There will be presentation, open discussion, and small group discussion to explore various aspects of reactivity in conflict and negotiation.

Attending all 4 sessions you will learn

  • Information on your relationship challenges.
  • A simple but hard practice to interrupt reactivity.
  • How boundaries and self-esteem interact.
  • About the ways we typically try to get our needs met that only serve to create discord and separation.
  • To identify the negative story you carry that sets your partner up to fail.
  • How effective repair works.
  • Tools to work with and information that will make any ongoing therapy more effective.

We work from the perspective of Relational Life Therapy by Terry Real for most of what we address in the workshop.

The workshop is ideal:

  • For partners contemplating relationship counselling but not quite sure, or want a less intense introduction.
  • For people who want a crash course into understanding their interactions and dynamics in relationships.
  • For folks who want to spend less time in couple's therapy learning about concepts so they can go deeper.

Free Introductory Video

This video will give you a preview of what we will be addressing in the group.

Plus you will meet Delyse and Tamsen and get to know them a little before committing to the group.

intro video
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Delyse Ledgard RCC

Counselling, counsellor, RCC

I have been interested in understanding connections and relational dynamics since I began my career over 30 years ago.  I have extensive experience in facilitating groups and teaching courses. I bring this experience to these groups that are close to my heart.  I believe that our relationships and ability to be relational are incredibly important to our well-being and satisfaction in life.  We are not taught the skills to have healthy relationships and it is my mission to bring those skills to as many people as possible.  Groups are one way of doing that.

I have trained in several relationship therapy approaches and when I came across Relational Life Therapy so much resonated and made sense.  RLT has changed my relationships and provided a clear way of understanding how our past impacts us, how to take steps out of the negative cycles and learn the skills necessary to create trust, understanding, and partnership in all our connections.  I want to provide that for you.

Tamsen Simon


As a white, able-bodied, non-binary person, I am constantly investigating my privileges and ways of being. I am polyamorous and have been partnered for over 20 years. I hope to debunk the myths and prominent cultural beliefs that disrupt intimate connections and work with those seeking skills for relational intimacy challenges.