Do you want to make the right decision?
But you are paralyzed by fear of making a mistake.
Feel afraid to disappoint someone, or let them down?
Keep telling yourself you don't have all the information to make a decision?
Feel that if you made a decision you have to stick to it not matter what?
Go along with someone else's decision to avoid the responsibility?
HERE ARE SOME WAYS TO RETHINK DECISIONS FROM FEAR TO ACTION.
Let's consider these perspectives
- Not choosing is in itself a decision!
- Few decisions are carved in stone. We can often re-evaluate our options when the situation changes.
- The act of making a decision energizes us and helps us move forward and take charge of our lives.
- No one makes the right decision every time.
Learning to see that mistakes are not:
- you have lost ... but that you have learnt something new.
- you are inferior ... but that you had the courage to try
- you have wasted time ... but that you have the chance to start afresh.
WHEN DECISIONS INVOLVE OTHER PEOPLE.
Let's face it some of the hardest decisions involve other people.
Such as; committing to or ending a relationship, moving away, going to school, wanting to do some activities separately from your partner, and saying no to someone.
This is particularly difficult if you have lived your life attempting to avoid conflict and make everyone else happy. These dynamics often have roots in early experiences that are still controlling your life.
So even when you know what decision you need to make, these fears can prevent you from taking that step.
Some of the issues we might explore in counselling
- Fear of intimacy.
- Relationship dynamics.
- Lack of connection to self.