When Love Feels Like a Question You Can’t Stop Asking
It is hard to work through struggles with Relationship OCD when we live in a world full of messages about what love is supposed to look like. Movies, songs, and social media all push the same idea: if you’ve found the one, you’ll just know. Things will feel easy, electric, and certain. Your partner will instinctively […]
Understanding that repair is one-sided.
Many people I work with find this difficult to understand, so in this post, I will discuss aspects of repair in relationships. Let’s start by acknowledging what we need to repair in a relationship. That might seem obvious, but let’s lay the foundation. It begins with a communication or action by your partner that leaves […]
How to change the Always/Never cycle in communication.
Many of us (myself included) have used the accusation you always__ or you never __ in arguments with loved ones. This is an all too common response that we refer to as the always/never cycle and if used consistently will erode trust and connection in an intimate relationship. You have likely been given well-meaning advice […]
Do You Trust Too Easily?
Is it possible to trust too easily or is mistrust and blind trust sides of the same coin? Here we examine the connection.
Rehashing the past does not serve your relationship
A common pattern in relationships is going over things and not resolving them or effectively leaving them in the past. This post addresses why we get into this pattern and ways to get out.
Why Moving On From an Abusive Relationship is Hard
You have finally ended an abusive relationship and you find yourself struggling with letting go. In this post we examine why that is so common.
Relationship strategies that get you nowhere.
Negotiating what you want in relationships is an essential skill. In This post we discuss the common strategies that lead to disconnection.
10 Ways to Let Go of Mistrust
Developing trust in relationships is essential to feeling content and secure in our life. In this post we examine how you can do this.