When the expression of Anger Loses it’s Purpose
Do you find yourself:
- exploding with anger
- feeling resentful and angry most of the time
- don’t say when you are angry for fear of hurting people ?
On the one hand it has a function
Anger informs us when something is not ok and we need to protect ourselves. Anger helps us fight for injustice and make things better in our lives and those of others.
On the other hand it can be destructive
Anger hurts others when it becomes abusive or controlling. Anger hurts others when it is a result of needing to be right and put others down.
What is anger management?
Therapy is focused on self awareness and learning how to distinguish between anger and abuse, anger and aggression. To notice the signs of anger and being able to respond differently to those signs. We will explore why you are angry and help release it in a safe and gradual way. To identify the feelings underneath the anger.
Your anger may be telling you something is not ok. But if you have learned that you will not be taken seriously you may have developed ways of trying to control others through anger. Intimidation through anger is a common way to try and coerce others to listen to you. However, people do not listen well to angry ways to get their attention, nor do you feel very good about how you have expressed yourself. So anger will lead to more anger, shame and powerlessness.
In therapy you will approach anger management as a general exploration into emotional regulation and releasing the stuck energy of your anger. We will focus on learning to slow things down and pay attention to your experience, to become comfortable with vulnerable feelings. The expression of anger is taken within the context of the whole of you. We focus on the person and not someone with an anger problem. Anger management may well be connected to trauma, depression, anxiety and coping with your life.
If you want to change the way you respond to others and feel empowered you can book an appointment directly online or email to set up an appointment.
If you are unsure you can also book a 1/2 hr free consultation with one of our counsellors to answer any questions you have and check out if you would like to proceed with counselling.